Out of the negative traits I think this one fits well with me:
"Polarizing. You see things only as either good or bad, black or white. There is no middle ground. You feel that you have to be perfect or that you're a total failure."
I know I do this. I really do think of things typically as a 'yes' or 'no', a 'must' or 'must not' and definitely apply it to anything else to "this person is either my friend, or isn't" etc etc... While I really don't see anything WRONG with this, its nice being able to feel clearly and definitely. But at the same time I know it often sounds negative even if I do not mean it in a negative way.
Here were steps for positive thinking:
A) Identify areas to change. If you want to become more optimistic and engage in more positive thinking, first identify areas of your life that you typically think negatively about, whether it's work, your daily commute or a relationship, for example. You can start small by focusing on one area to approach in a more positive way.
B) Check yourself. Periodically during the day, stop and evaluate what you're thinking. If you find that your thoughts are mainly negative, try to find a way to put a positive spin on them.
C) Be open to humor. Give yourself permission to smile or laugh, especially during difficult times. Seek humor in everyday happenings. When you can laugh at life, you feel less stressed.
D) Follow a healthy lifestyle. Exercise at least three times a week to positively affect mood and reduce stress. Follow a healthy diet to fuel your mind and body. And learn to manage stress.
E) Surround yourself with positive people. Make sure those in your life are positive, supportive people you can depend on to give helpful advice and feedback. Negative people may increase your stress level and make you doubt your ability to manage stress in healthy ways.
F) Practice positive self-talk. Start by following one simple rule: Don't say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to anyone else. Be gentle and encouraging with yourself. If a negative thought enters your mind, evaluate it rationally and respond with affirmations of what is good about you.
Well thats a lot to think about! So:
A) I think this whole exercise fits well with this point, I think identifying goals is also important in identifying areas to change as thats something I'm starting to feel more strongly about.
B) I think this can help. While being positive all the time can definitely be exhausting, I think its something simple that I can stop myself during the day, and just try and think about it in a different way.
C) I'm definitely open to humor. Again a reason why working will be good for me, having fun social interactions with co-workers! Its been great so far and something I've needed.
D) Yeah yeah yeah... eat well and exercise.... I think that'll be up near the top of a goal list once I get one going haha. It'll be tough for sure but its one of those things that does seem to always have such great results
E) Ahhhh well if I had friends.... lol. I think some negative ones are phasing out... at least how I view the friendship as turned into a negative way, so once again new people from work is a good start. I always seem to be great friends with people AT work, but its outside of work thats a bit harder... but something I'm going to try for. Last night I went to our work holiday part after only having worked 4 shifts. I really knew no-one but a great co-worker made if fun and it was a good start for sure. Something I probably wouldn't have normally done but glad to have.
F) I don't really talk myself down ever... but I don't talk myself up either. I don't think i really NEED that but encouragement on this experiment will definitely be beneficial.
ALL that being said I'm not sure thats helped me much with responding to quotes! BUT reminding myself of these points its a good start to thinking better and getting a better grip one what I want this to become.
And with that... I feel good for tonight. End of day two!
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